So, when is it time to get marriage counseling? When should you seek the help of a marriage counselor? Well, to be honest, most couples make the decision to get help when it’s far too late and then expect the counselor to perform miracles.
Others will go to a marriage therapist with only one person with their heart in it and this, as you would expect, becomes a waste of time.
But when is the right time to see a marriage counselor? Well, we are going to give you seven reasons today which will help you to decide if the time is right. The tips come from a post at psychcentral.com and we are betting you are going to recognize some of them right away.
In fact, if you are reading this then it’s almost safe to assume that this is something you have been thinking about seriously. More on this in a moment.
Some of the reasons to seek marriage counseling include:
- when communication between you and your spouse has become negative
- when you and your spouse just seem to be going through the motions
- when neither has any clue on how to resolve marital differences
- when a couple is just staying together for the sake of their kids
Marriage rates supposedly are on the decline. While it’s an oft-repeated statistic that 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, that number has remained unchanged for the past 30 years. Divorce rates also vary with the partners’ level of education, religious beliefs, and many other factors.
But when divorce does happen, it results in difficulties for adults as well as children. For adults, divorce can be one of life’s most stressful life events. The decision to divorce often is met with ambivalence and uncertainty about the future. If children are involved, they may experience negative effects such as denial, feelings of abandonment, anger, blame, guilt, preoccupation with reconciliation, and acting out.
While divorce may be necessary and the healthiest choice for some, others may wish to try to salvage whatever is left of the union. When couples encounter problems or issues, they may wonder when it is appropriate to seek marriage counseling. Here are seven good reasons…..
The truth is, most couples will leave their runs too late. By the time they get to a counselor it’s game over. A counselor needs something to work with and that’s why it’s important to recognize just how serious your issues are early.
But then it’s a case of finding the courage to talk to each other about it and make the decision to attend sessions without any resistance. We find one spouse is usually willing and the other is not. By the time they come around, a lot of the damage has been done.
Have you been to a marriage counselor before? How did it work for you? Did you get to them early enough or was it too late to save your marriage? We’d like to get your feedback as it can definitely help those who are contemplating help from a marriage counselor right now.