So, what’s wrong with mama’s boys? Or what’s wrong with marrying a mama’s boy? Well, tough questions and the truth is, we really can’t tell you. As a what’s wrong with mama’s boys, I have a wonderful marriage and my wife loves my mom.So what is all the “hoo ha” and why should women avoid mama’s boys?
Again, from where I sit, there is nothing wrong and the reality is that in most cases, it’s got a lot to do with the spouse wanting complete control over her husband. In other words, it’s not that she hates her mother-in-law, it’s just that she wants hubby paying her the same respect and compliments that mom gets.
Does that make sense? Maybe I’ve just dug myself into a hole?:)
I’ll try one last time to explain it; when my wife gets upset with me over my mom it will be something over what I say such as, you are eating dinner at mom’s place and you suddenly blurt out…”This is the best lasagna I’ve ever had. No one makes lasagna like you mom”.
Okay, great statement and you’ve just entrenched yourself in mom’s heart even further but think about it; your wife makes great lasagna too and she gets her “nose out of joint” that she’s not the best at making it. At least not the equal of mom.
Now, does that make sense?
Again, the truth is that there are different stages of being a mommy’s boy and the above is just one. That’s where I am. And I acknowledge that it gets much worse than that. An article I spotted at living.oneindia.in asks “is every man a mama’s boy”? We haven’t mentioned dominating mothers…that’s where things get sticky.
The article mentions that men who grow up with dominating moms usually end up with dominating wives; not a good combination when the two are in the same space. Oh, the article’s grammar may be a little off center but the information is great.
If you ask any average girl, then a guy you would describe as a ‘mamma’s boy’ will not be on her marriageable list at all. So what happens after marriage? All women have problems with husband and they proclaim that it is the husband’s mother who is cause of these problems. ‘He can never go against his mother’ is a standard complain. So are we to believe that all boys are inherently mamma’s boys or become so after tying the knot with another woman.
Here are some of the reasons for which guys are given this title somewhat unreasonably sometimes…..
Meanwhile, an article at askmen.com looks at why women don’t like mama’s boys. And it’s a little like we mentioned above in my little scenario; girls, please forgive me for saying this but women like to be number one. I say that in the most respectful fashion. They like to be appreciated.
The article at askmen.com also says that no woman wants to be second priority. I’ll second that!
Women always like hearing a potential mate speak about his mother in a caring and respectful manner. In fact, men who have a good relationship with their mothers tend to be more understanding and respectful toward women, and we ladies know that.
But a man who talks a little too much about his mother will raise a “mama’s boy” flag in any woman’s mind. It’s not hard to understand why women don’t like mama’s boys.
Here are some of the reasons why women don’t like mama’s boys and solutions to how a man can keep both his mother and lover happy…..
So there you have it. What’s wrong with mamas boys? It’s not that there’s anything really wrong with mama’s boys, it’s just that they need to know when it’s time to have an adult relationship with their mothers. And never praise your mom in front of your wife in a way that demeans her. Does that make sense?
Think that went well, don’t you?