So, how to bring passion back into a marriage? Is there a secret to bring fire back into a marriage? The answer is no. In fact, everything you need to get passion back in your marriage is sitting in your memory bank. In other words, you need to go back to the beginning, not of your marriage, but when you first started dating.
Well, don’t be. You see, as far as marriage success tips are concerned, this is one of the best. When people get married they go through a honeymoon period where things are still new and you are basically still dating and getting to know each other. Then the worse thing that can happen to any marriage happens.
It’s routine. Look, there’s nothing wrong with routine but when you get comfortable and take things for granted after a while, it’s like a running stream suddenly having it’s flow of fresh water pouring into it each day. When it is stopped, the water eventually becomes stagnant and virtually dies. This is what happens to a marriage when the flow is stopped.
We spotted some great advice at courierpress.com which responded to the question of how to bring the fire back in marriage. You’ll do well to make note of these and get ready to become a teenager again!
How can we bring back the fire in our marriage?— S.B., EvansvilleThis happens sooner or later in every marriage. Every marriage eventually settles into more of a routine. Marriages that were once exciting and loving can get caught in the romantic doldrums, causing a slow and painful death to a relationship.
There’s no quick fix to a stagnant marriage, of course, but you can lay aside the excuses and begin to date your sweetheart. It takes planning and effort to bring some fire and romance into the picture again.
Remember what you did when you were dating? You phoned and actually talked for long periods of time. You sent cards and notes and sometimes for no special reason. You actually planned dates and activities. Go back to some of those activities…..
Sometimes you have to plan romance. Recall for a moment the craziness of your dating days, the coy attitudes, the flirting, the fantasies, the chasing after the prize. Give your spouse an “I love you gift” or leave them a note telling them “I love you” or “Let’s get together.” Do something special for your spouse without letting him or her know it. Get your calendars together and plan a time to have some fun together. Mark out an evening for just the two of you. Maybe planning a romantic night doesn’t sound romantic, but when you anticipate your time together it can become very exciting. Take turns planning a date. Try to think of what your spouse would enjoy doing…..
Do you plan for romance in your marriage? Is romance something that you and your spouse keep alive? Did some of the tips on how to bring passion back into a marriage resonate with you? We’d love to hear your feedback on what you do that makes your marriage a pleasure to be in each and every day. Don’t be shy and share it with us.
Meanwhile, a similar message is presented by relationship expert Larry Bilotta. He talks about getting romance back into a marriage. Romance is at the core of most successful marriages and yes, it is possible to have a lifetime of romance. Passion in your marriage is not difficult to keep alive if only you are prepared to do some work.
We spoke about routine being an enemy to marriage earlier. It can also be a secret weapon. Get into a routine where you are continually surprising each other. When you do this, you keep each other guessing and keeping mystery in a relationship is so powerful that it’s often understated. Don’t you agree?