How do you get free from abusive husband? It’s a question that many women around the world have asked and the sad part is, many don’t get free. One of the best ways to get out of an abusive marriage is to take the courageous first step and just ask for help. It’s this step many won’t take for whatever reason but for those who do, life free of abuse is something they will never take for granted again.
There is a good discussion going on at jamaicaobserver.com which could give you the encouragement to take the first step to put an abusive relationship behind you. One woman tells of how she moved out for several months, went back to give the marriage another chance, then moved away again for good when it didn’t work out. Her story could inspire you to see what abusive marriages are and that they have no place in our society.
Your story speaks of the resilience and strength of character that many women would do well to learn from. You must be commended for taking the decision to remove yourself from what was evidently an abusive situation. No doubt your daughters would have witnessed the ill-treatment meted out to you by their father. Such a hostile environment is not conducive to their wholesome psychological and emotional development.
Men who have anger management issues and who physically and verbally abuse their spouses need to engage in psychotherapy to address their aggressive, controlling behavior. These men are noted to beg for second chances; they may behave exceptionally well for a few weeks or months but they soon return to their abusive ways. The women who are involved in these dysfunctional relationships remain in the environment for financial and social security while others with children do so in the interest of the children.
You said you want to free yourself which suggest you felt enslaved in your relationship. Marriage, contrary to what some people believe, is not life imprisonment or a death sentence and anyone in a marital relationship who feels that way ought to seek professional help right away. If there is no improvement after a period of counseling then you may need the help of the court.
So you have decided to move on with your life, do so, but avoid rushing into a rebound relationship. Be honest and upfront with whomever you date, clearly declaring your marital status. Hopefully your husband will respect your decision and not try to impede your progress. Be mindful of the girls as well. Make sure you conduct yourself in a respectful and responsible manner around them…..
Many will also ask how do you get out of an abusive marriage? The answer is again, take the first step. We understand many woman are gripped by fear; fear that things will be worse for them if they leave but it’s amazing what a supportive network can do and how many are out there ready to help. Your self esteem is at stake and it’s something you should maintain, even under the most trying conditions.
Have you been able to break away from an abusive marriage? If so, please share what you did and how you were able to free yourself from it. Your input could be a huge help for others in a similar position wanting to break away but unable to take that first step.