So, how do you choose a good marriage counselor? How will you know that the counselor working with you and your spouse actually has your interests at heart? Can a marriage counselor help me save my marriage?
Lots of questions and the truth is, there should be when choosing a marriage counselor. Why? Because you want someone who actually cares about your situation. Now we are not saying marriage counselors don’t care…they do but you still need to be sure they are qualified.
An article I wrote a couple of years ago on how to choose a marriage counselor talked about the fact that you can interview more than one marriage counselor before settling on a choice. This surprised many people but the fact is, it’s like screening applicants for a job; you at the best applicant.
Here are some of the questions you need to ask:
- What is your experience working with couples who are going through the particular issues we are having? What’s your experience?
- What are some of the things we should expect from your counseling?
- Are there treatment methods and if so, what are they?
- Can you give me a list of prices?
Counseling to help save marriages is a must when you consider what’s attached to it. People often forget that it’s not just two people in most break ups who are affected.
Consider just immediate family. Their children, siblings, their children’s children…the list can go on and on. So if you think your relationship is worth the effort to save then counseling should be a priority. Even if you think it’s not what you want or don’t think it could possibly help, somehow get yourself and your spouse in front of a counselor for at least one session.
Marriage counseling will benefit in many areas of marital trouble. These include infidelity, conflict, work life balance, communication, blended family issues child issues, substance abuse and family violence…..
Dana Fillmore is someone we’ve referenced before at MarriageAndProblems.com and her advice is always appreciated by our readers. She has posted a short video on how to choose a good marriage counselor and the underlying message again is, choose someone who actually cares about you and your marriage.
Some of the things she mentions as important before deciding on a marriage counselor is:
- have ten years experience
- they actually specialize in couples therapy
- choose someone who suits you and your spouse
- can you afford them
Have you used marriage counseling? How did it work out for you? Did it help save your marriage? Would you recommend marriage counseling to others and if so, what is the most important aspect in choosing one in your opinion? We’d love to hear your feedback so please leave a comment below.